Questionable Happiness

Good morning fellow bloggers!


I’m going to address something I’ve seen since beginning my working placement within my office…questionable happiness.


Although we’re only an architecture practice of 5 (including myself), I observe a vast scale of happiness across the team. From being completely content with doing minimal work for the most money, to doing the most work and earning the most money for others. There’s 2 females in the company, an associate who is 34 years old and me, the student who is 21 years old. Despite being 13 years apart, we kind of just clicked and talk about everything (when the bosses aren’t around) which is great because it’s like having someone in a higher position kind of on your side.


The bottom end of the spectrum:

So I feel that my older work friend is actually at the bottom of the food chain, despite having the title of ‘Associate’. Why? Well, she gets given the majority of the work because shes highly skilled which is stressful when clients always want their project to be priority. She only works three days a week because she has a young boy that in turn means she has limited time to do her work and see her son putting more pressure on time scales. And to top it off shes only earning a little bit more than me although she is on three days a week which balances that out. However, would you be happy earning the same as a student after ten years of loyalty and growth in a company you earn hundreds of thousands for? Can you relate?

The ‘Top’ end of the spectrum:

Now, I highlight the word ‘top’ for a reason. I only see this person as ‘top’ of the chain because they feel like they have control over everything. This is one of the partners within the practice. He does hardly any work, always talks about money and the value of things, talks about his ‘expensive’ watch and car (which he doesn’t even own, lol). Am I impressed? HELL NO! One of my pet peeves is people talking about monetary value of things…inherited from my dad. To be honest, I’d be happy sitting there all day, going out on jollies when I fancied and earning 50/60K. BUT…when the student is doing more work than the boss, then something is a bit unbalanced here. Once in a while I walk past his office and what do I see on his screen? I should be seeing lovely architectural drawings, but no I see Candy Crush or Facebook. Nothing is more infuriating when you’re busting a gut for their benefit! Can you relate?


How can we deal with this hierarchy?

I mean…there’s not much you can do, they’re your boss and you’re just an employee. However, what we can do is question ourselves…are we really happy in this roll? If you’re not then why waste anymore time? This is YOUR life, you don’t need to be sitting in the dirt while your boss sits on a platinum throne. There’s plenty of companies that are respectful and offer equal chances for their employees.

Since starting here I have been planning my life out a little bit (refer to my other posts you might want to do the same) . I always say to myself that WHEN I’m the boss of my multi successful businesses, each one will have a team working environment and will actually strive to make work fun. From experience I feel that I need to make this happen…Happy employees…Happy company…Happy life.


Moral : Question yourself and question your choices, but most importantly question your happiness! 

Be Your Own Boss


We’re so close to Friday! We can do this!

Another day in the office, another boost to my motivation. Are you fed up of someone always being ‘above’ you ? Someone always watching over you to make sure you’re performing well FOR THEM? …me too.

Now is the time for you to change that. You know how it feels to be just an employee. You know how it feels to me metaphorically Sh** on. What’s the resolution?…Be your own boss! Choose your working hours, employ people to be part of a supportive team, do what you love and most of all be successful in life. Sounds like a perfect world right? Well let’s go and grab it!

I have heard some of the people I work with saying ‘I can’t leave this place, I’ve got a child and it’s just comfortable income’. Does that sound like someone with any motivation for greater success? Not to me it doesn’t. I understand the uncertainty of having another job lined up if you’re looking to leave the one you’re already in…but sometimes these risks can change your lives for the better. Do you want to regret something that could’ve been a turning point for you and/or your family?

After working at the very bottom of the chain I have quickly realised, this is not where I want to spend my working life. I want to be different, I want to stand out, I want to have something no one else has…I want to be my own boss!

What’s stopping me from having all of that? Well…nothing really, maybe a bit of funding, which is quite common I assume. However, I am more than willing to stick at something for a year or so to raise what I need for my goals. It’s quite simple, just takes a little bit of time.

This week I have written out all of my start up ideas in my lovely new notebook ready to be built. At the back of my notebook however, I have a list with boxes that need to be ticked. What does this list consist of? All of my goals, short and long term. If I’m ever feeling a bit low, or have lost some of my motivation, I turn to those pages and look straight at the words of my future!

Moral: It’s never to late to follow your dreams, don’t make your goal a regret, make it reality! 

Strength and Success


Why do Tuesday’s feel worse than Mondays? …anyone? Today isn’t so bad because it’s my first anniversary! (yay)…but i’m stuck at work and my boyfriend is 100+ miles away, so I suppose it could be better.

Anyway, today I wanted to talk about independence, and being strong. Mainly in the situations where someone tells you that you can’t do something, or they don’t think you’re good enough, or even just plain old rejection. Why? because I have experienced my fair share of these people and I’ve turned their words into my motivation and success.

To start with I’m going back to when I was in sixth form (although not too long ago, it still is fresh in my mind). I probably experienced some of the worst and best teachers when it comes to empathy, having been through some ordeals, my dreams were consistently shut down. How does it feel being told ‘you’re not smart enough to do what you want to do in life’ by someone who is supposed to be guiding you, pushing you and helping you to achieve just that? Well it definitely put a dampener on things to say the least. The whole time I was studying I was put down again and again and again by multiple tutors, from being told I’m not smart enough to take this exam, to ‘we can’t help you anymore’. How did I overcome years of being metaphorically crushed by my ‘superiors’?…with one hand held by my dad, I fought my way through to get to where I am today. I used these daggers of words to give myself upthrust (see I did listen in physics) into this position.

Where am I today? …I have nearly finished my year out working (placement), which I spent seven months speaking to companies to finally find one practice to take me under their wing. Having come on in leaps and bounds with my technical skills I cannot imagine spending this year doing anything else, it is the BEST thing to do whilst studying at university. At the end of summer I will be returning to university to complete my degree and earn my BSc(hons) in Architectural Technology. Now…would I have predicted myself to be in this position three or five years ago…NO F****** WAY. However, how good does it feel that I am only 21 and am already more successful than those people who tried to stop me from achieving my goals? AMAAAAAZIIIINGGG is the answer!

Moral : Although it seems impossible, you must use the negativity people push upon you to channel your motivation into success.