Facing Reality…it’s Never Too Late

Good morning fellow bloggers!


I’m back in my office seat today ready to not move for the next 8.5 hours (nothing else I’d rather do).


Are you in desperate need for a change, but feel stuck ?

If you believe you were destined for greater things and are crying out for a change then why don’t you go out there and do it? It’s scary right? Sometimes we need to get the back end of our hammer and lift out those nails that are holding us down tightly to the ground. There is absolutely NO reason that you shouldn’t have what you really want in life.

The reason I say this is because I feel somewhat lucky that I am in a position where I can choose, guide and plan my future so I don’t end up feeling like I’m stuck in a dark hole and can’t climb out. As you get older your elders start to share more with you because you have a better understanding of these things. I have found that most of what I get told now-a-days is how bored, stressed and fed up everyone is in their jobs, lives etc. I’m determined to never have to say these words when I reach my goals.

Do you think you’re too far into life to change something so drastic?

Obviously I don’t have the most life experience in the world, being 21 and all, but I genuinely believe that there is no set age for when you can start to turn your life around.

Say you’re a 50 year old guy, single, in a job you hate and enjoy the company of your 3 cats in a standard bedsit. For some this is ideal and I commend you, but if this sounds like a nightmare then there is NOTHING and NO ONE who can stop you from going for gold. Get on those internet dating sites (maybe go to the gym first if you need to), start looking for jobs who want to help you grow and you will strive within because you love it. It’s even as simple as updating your CV, put your skills down on paper because you are needed and wanted. Get on your feet for the first time in however many years! You CAN do it I promise!


 

Whenever I write as if I’m talking to everyone who has ever doubted themselves, I also motivate myself to want to be the best version of me! It just flows out of me like Niagara Falls and I end up coming out with things I didn’t even know I thought about.


 

Moral: Sometimes you need to take leap of faith and leave everything behind. It isn’t too late for you!

Take a Break

Good morning for the second time today my fellow bloggers!


 

Do you often feel overwhelmed with work, home life, growing up or any big changes in your life? I’m starting to understand how you feel…


 

What are the pressures and stress’ in your life?

Personally, I’m still learning how to cope with these, but I have started taking measures to help myself relax a bit more and not let them get the better of me. Currently, my main stress’ revolve around work because I have a lot of pressure to make things correct with no room for error…it’s quite a lot of pressure for a 21 year old. I also feel some sort of pressure on where I want to go with my job/university course, whether I want to become chartered as an Architectural Technologist or continue studying to become an Architect (huge decisions to be made very soon). 

What do I do to keep a level head?

At the moment my main way of chilling out is simply by sitting down with a warm drink, comfort food and watching my programs I’ve recorded on TV. However, this is the lazy way and I want to find other forms of relaxing even if it doesn’t involve sitting down for hours. For example, I cannot wait to get back into the gym when I’m fully recovered from a recent foot operation. You may be thinking ‘I couldn’t imagine anything worse, that’s not relaxing at all’. I find that just sitting on the exercise bike with my earphones in listening to music, or a podcast really gets my endorphin’s going and makes me feel amazing even after a long day. Wearing yourself out is actually a great way to relax because when you get back home you’ve released all the energy and stress through exercise so now you can just sit and actually do nothing…(you also get a great work out).

Something I really want to try is meditation, yoga or even aquarobics! Not only do you get to wear cute leggings, but I think it gives you the time to clear your mind and focus on yourself for a moment. Ignore the world around you and balance your energies. I’ll look into this more when I finish my placement, I want to put a bit more time into it and I think it’s more of a ‘during the day’ kind of activity, or in the morning (if you have the time). I’m a bit of a water baby so I just love floating around in a pool, and doing exercise whilst submerged in my favourite liquid just sounds awesome to me! (I realise how weird that sounds).

What if I really don’t have the time for this?

I always think to myself that If don’t have time for something I’ll just do it another day, but I never really end up doing it! In reality I can be a bit lazy because really, I do have the time if I put the effort in…you make time for the things you want to do don’t you. I think we should all try and find a new way of relaxing ourselves, even try a new activity and add it to your daily or weekly routine. I feel so much more accomplished when I do more with my day and time.


 

Hope you all enjoyed this little post, once I get started I can’t stop!

Moral:  There’s always time for things you just have to prioritise your life!

Leibster Award

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Although I don’t feel like I’ve earnt this award, I am grateful for Nonalsoholicstudent adding me to their nomination list. I think that all new bloggers deserve some recognition and should be rewarded for their expression and success as a blogger so far.

If you haven’t checked out Nonalcoholicstudent blog you need to go and have a look now, I find their blog so relatable and love reading their posts. For me I find it a challenge to sit and read something unless it’s super interesting and engaging from the beginning.

Right, fellow blogger, here are the rules for this award:

Rules

  • Create a new post thanking the person who nominated you, link their blog. Include award graphic.
  • Answer the questions provided.
  • Make a new set of 10 questions for your nominees to answer. (Sorry if they’re rubbish!)
  • Nominate 5-10 recently followed bloggers and share your post with them so they see it.

My questions from my fellow student are: 

  • How are you doing today?

Well, I’m alright, stuck at work and was stuck in A&E last night for 4 hours. Apart from that I’m great!

  • What are you favourite kinds of things to write?

I love writing about my own experiences, how I overcome things and how to strive for what we want in life. The best feeling is knowing that you have inspired, motivated or even helped someone get through a tough time. YOUR words have encouraged even 1 person to do something different. I also like to write tips and experiences about what I have found out about blogging so far. I personally had to dig around to find some pointers on how to grow traffic, what to write about etc., but here I’ve put a little guide about what I’ve found Becoming a blogger.

  • What do you snack on when you’re writing?

Well, this is probably THE most boring food to ever snack on…ricecakes. I don’t know why I like them, I just do okay! They have basically no calories and you can just keep eating them without feeling bad about yourself.

  • Describe yourself in three words?

1- Ambitious, 2- Creative, 3- Selfless (without blowing my own trumpet)

  • Special Skill?

I feel like my special skill is adaptability. When it comes to people, I pick up on their traits and adapt myself to be able have a conversation, and empathise  with them.

  • What’s the silliest moment in life that you can recall?

My silliest moment…that’s a tough one when there’s so many.

Before I left to start my placement, my boyfriend, his best friend (my housemate), and myself all went to the cinema and were loving life. We arrived back at my uni house where my boyfriend opened our fridge to a 4L milk carton/bottle to fall straight out onto the floor. At this moment I’m nearly wetting myself on the floor. I get up to help clear up, only to slip straight into the fridge doing the splits in some semi-skimmed milk!

  • When have you laughed the hardest?

I think I laughed the hardest when I was in my living room with a different housemate (I had 10). She had about 5 or 6 IKEA coloured drinking glasses. Now, she’s very well known for being clumsy and breaking things. We were watching the Great British Bake Off (typical Brits). One of the contestants had dropped all of their pastries which set us both off into fits of laughter. However, she jolted her arm and knocked this glass off onto the floor where it bounced twice and then exploded where we sat in a shower of glass. (You know when you start laughing and you can’t stop so anything sets you off).

  • What’s on your bucket list?

I need to visit Iceland blue lagoon hot springs (have threatened the boyfriend). They look amazing and I just need to go there end of. Please tell me you don’t need to go here because you might need professional help.

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  • If money was no issue, what would you love to do for a living?

I would love to be a professional cake taster! (I’ll make it a real job)

  • If you could be in any fictional world for a day, what would it be?

Imagine if DisneyLand was like a place where all the characters lived…that’s where you’ll find me.

My questions are:

  1. Why did you start blogging?
  2. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  3. What’s your favourite comfort food?
  4. What would be your super power?
  5. Where is your ideal holiday destination and why?
  6. What is your biggest success in life so far?
  7. What’s your most interesting hobby?
  8. What is the best purchase you have every made?
  9. What song best describes your life?
  10. If you could change your name, what would your new name be?

 

Finally… my nominees are:

Little Black Dress

Jack of All Trade

Unsettled student

Home with Grace

Kartikeya Mishra

Diary of a twenty something (has recently received this award from someone else, but deserves more so here you go)

Like my nominator said on their post, if there is anyone else reading this who would like to answer these questions, I’d love to nominate you guys as well! Let me know and I’ll add you to the list!

Happy blogging!

Becoming a blogger

Good morning fellow bloggers!


 

Since becoming a blogger I have loved having this routine and having something I can express myself within!

 


 

Why did I start blogging?

Well, to be honest, I just was looking for something new to do! However, now I have settled into the blogging world and am feeling comfortable with my position in the community. One of those new years resolutions that I have actually kept up with. I’ve seen quite a few new January bloggers and I’m happy to say, I’m proud of us! I felt like I had too much going on in my head to not put it down on paper for everyone to see and read.

How have I gained traffic?

Blogging daily is obviously the most well- known way of conjuring more traffic to your blog, but if you don’t have the time then I can see how it can be a bit of a dampener. I try to keep my post topics relevant to all people to keep the audience broad. By giving helpful advice, motivation and inspiration I not only help myself but, I hope to help others and from the response I’ve received so far I think I’ve achieved this.

What is the Community Pool?

One main aspect of my blog growth has been the use of the Community Pool. This is a post from WordPress on the ‘daily post’. It allows new bloggers and veterans to comment about their blog for all to see. By leaving a link to your blog below your description, anyone can visit your blog and gain you more traffic. I’ve seen a dramatic increase in my following by doing this. You can find this in your reader and search for the Community Pool every Monday. Not only this, but sometimes there are some other posts to promote yourself on so keep up to date on your Blog reader!

How do I interact with other Bloggers?

I first started commenting and conversing with other bloggers through the Community Pool, but also through searching on my reader for topics I’m interested in. By following other bloggers, liking their posts and commenting your opinions allows for them to find you and check out your blog. I must say though, don’t just comment nice things to make people feel good if you don’t mean it. We must act as a community and help each other, there’s nothing wrong with a bit of advice.

How can we change up our blog content?

Sometimes It’s good to change up your content so you don’t feel like you’re repeating yourself. Things such as a 30 day challenge where you can post different things each day for 30 days so bloggers can get to know you. Collaborations are also a good idea. For example if you are an art blogger you could collaborate with a poet. So if you were to paint a piece then they can write a response. The Daily post also sets daily prompts, this is usually one word and you can write a blog related to it. You then comment a link in the post for others to come and read.

 


 

Moral: Starting something new doesn’t have to be so scary, go at your own pace and good things will come!

Update on your life

Good morning fellow bloggers!


 

I hope everyone has stayed on track with their new years resolutions. I actually have managed to for once which is new to me. It’s a nice change to feel like I’ve actually achieved something this year simply by sticking to a new regime.

Anyway…I want to revert back to some of my previous posts about the all important note book where we have written our goals and ideas for future success. Why is it so important to regularly update this? Well if you don’t feel the need to update your goals and aspirations then you’ve not been thinking enough about yourself and what you want. It’s okay to be a bit selfish sometimes! I find that by constantly adding either a new goal or even another sentence onto one of my project ideas will help bring me a tiny step closer to reaching them. It’s all about finding what motivates you. The reason I choose to put a long list of goals in the back of my pretty little note book is so that I don’t disappoint myself.

Has anyone else read my note book? No they haven’t, I treat it like a diary of my future. I want to keep on top of myself without anyone else asking if I’ve completed any of them yet. No one needs that extra pressure. I feel that if you do achieve one of your many goals then it can not only benefit you, but benefit those around you in an indirect way. For example, I will share one of my goals that involves others…I would love to be able to buy my parents a holiday. This not only makes me feel good about giving something to the people who raised me, but they have been wanting a break away for a while. What else could make you feel warm inside like that? This is what you need to think about.

Go to your note book and treat it like your life planner. Follow your goals, and help yourself achieve success…I believe in you!


 

Moral: Be a bit selfish to become a bit selfless!

Responsibilities

Good morning fellow bloggers!


 

Throughout out lives we’re thrust into positions of responsibility. Whether it be small or big we have duties to others as we’re pushed up in the hierarchy of society!

From baby sitting your little brother, to making sure your assignments are submitted on time, you are trusted.

 


 

What roles of responsibility have I been faced in the last few years?

  • To start with, living away from home at university left me with the responsibility of looking after myself. Now, for an 18 year old that is some feat. However, adaptability was so important as well as confidence. When we’re put into a new situation if we are unable to adapt then unfortunately our chances are limited…a bit like evolution (loosely).
  • Not having your parents around to tell you to ‘do your homework’ can be tricky for some who need a bit more of a push or guidance. At university you do not have anyone on your case (maybe your tutors), but the whole new environment is supposed to treat us like adults and allow us to learn how to do pretty much everything ourselves. The best thing about it though….we get to do it alongside thousands of other people our age and most importantly, our friends.
  • Today I am given a huge responsibility. One that affects lives. Today I am trusted with drawing and constructing drawings for buildings. For someone who has limited experience it’s very scary to be honest. However, being thrown into the deep end and being in charge of my own job has been life changing and eye opening for me.

 

How did I adapt to a new living environment? Understanding that everyone would be nervous I put on a false sense of confidence and started mingling with my new flat mates to which we are still close to this day. Not everyone is so lucky when it comes to something like this, but putting yourself out there and meeting all sorts of new people is a huge life skill and part of a milestone in a young persons life. Whether that be an university, starting a new job, moving to a new area, it still applies.

How did I adapt my organisation skills? Well, I’m still a bit all over the place…but I’m trying okay. When it comes to assignments, you just sort of do it…I know that’s not very helpful, but it’s true. You chose to do this, so it’s up to you to get the grades you need for your future. Balancing work and social life was the hardest part for me. When you have so much free time obviously you’re meant to be studying, but it’s so tempting to just go to the pub for a few hours or go to your mates house next door to play Fifa. Finding that balance is key not only in university, but anything really. I feel like I’m nearly there and hopefully by the time I return I’ll be an even more well rounded adult (laughs internally).

How have I dealt with the responsibility in my job? To be honest, I’m still scared to make a mistake, but how else do we learn? Since being the head of my own building construction I have learnt so many new skills. I thought I was competent with simply speaking to people on the phone or by email, but when in this context you really have to know what you’re doing. At the beginning of my placement I felt like I couldn’t do it, I wasn’t going to be good enough. Now, I’m more confident than ever and cannot wait to push myself in the future!


 

Moral: You have to trust yourself before you can let others trust you!

 

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