Why do Tuesday’s feel worse than Mondays? …anyone? Today isn’t so bad because it’s my first anniversary! (yay)…but i’m stuck at work and my boyfriend is 100+ miles away, so I suppose it could be better.
Anyway, today I wanted to talk about independence, and being strong. Mainly in the situations where someone tells you that you can’t do something, or they don’t think you’re good enough, or even just plain old rejection. Why? because I have experienced my fair share of these people and I’ve turned their words into my motivation and success.
To start with I’m going back to when I was in sixth form (although not too long ago, it still is fresh in my mind). I probably experienced some of the worst and best teachers when it comes to empathy, having been through some ordeals, my dreams were consistently shut down. How does it feel being told ‘you’re not smart enough to do what you want to do in life’ by someone who is supposed to be guiding you, pushing you and helping you to achieve just that? Well it definitely put a dampener on things to say the least. The whole time I was studying I was put down again and again and again by multiple tutors, from being told I’m not smart enough to take this exam, to ‘we can’t help you anymore’. How did I overcome years of being metaphorically crushed by my ‘superiors’?…with one hand held by my dad, I fought my way through to get to where I am today. I used these daggers of words to give myself upthrust (see I did listen in physics) into this position.
Where am I today? …I have nearly finished my year out working (placement), which I spent seven months speaking to companies to finally find one practice to take me under their wing. Having come on in leaps and bounds with my technical skills I cannot imagine spending this year doing anything else, it is the BEST thing to do whilst studying at university. At the end of summer I will be returning to university to complete my degree and earn my BSc(hons) in Architectural Technology. Now…would I have predicted myself to be in this position three or five years ago…NO F****** WAY. However, how good does it feel that I am only 21 and am already more successful than those people who tried to stop me from achieving my goals? AMAAAAAZIIIINGGG is the answer!
Moral : Although it seems impossible, you must use the negativity people push upon you to channel your motivation into success.